Make it so…

I grew up as an idealist, believing in the goodness of humanity, believing naively good would prevail..afterall it was good..it had to..a childhood notion I needed to believe in…it would make the unhappiness ok…

I believed in the strength of humanity. I bought into all the slogans that we would prevail, that our hearts would rise to the challenge

I believed in the perseverance that humanity was capable of, if only they would focus themselves on the goodness with all their strength…

I saw wrongness in the world and I believed people would make it right..and they did not

I believed evil did not exist, that it was just the absence of goodness – and so adding more good in the world would prevail…

I believed if I gave it all my goodness, my strength, my heart, and my perseverance I could make a difference in the world..and in little ways…. perhaps it has… and yet……. Not enough

A few years ago.. I saw the epitome of greed, arrogance, narcissism, indecency, and hatred rise to political power and basically buy their way into power with lies… I felt sucker punched…how could this be? How could intelligent people choose this in their life...to champion all the evil things he stood for… how could they not see through how he touted religious values as a fulcrum when he himself appeared to have none……..

I was devastated… my idealistic bubble shattered. Evil did exist in the world..and it felt like it was winning and goodness was not prevailing…how could this be?

I was only beginning to see the depth of pain that is in humanity… and how in that pain, in that woundedness, in that helplessness… there is also an idealistic need for someone to save us from ourselves…….and despite who he was in reality.. he promised what they needed to hear… it was all somebody else’s fault., someone not like them…and it we could be rid of “ them” everything would be ok

And although we know it is not so.. some want to believe it.. because people are in pain and they need it to stop… in whatever looks like it might…

 

But…. We are “them” too… we have looked to others to fix the way of the world and make us safe… we have looked to “others” as the problem.. how could they have voted like they did?... we naively believe goodness would prevail, that we are strong and will persevere……… and we sit back continuing to naively believe goodness must prevail… and watch the world grow bleaker and wonder how can this be..

This can be…. because the pain is not being healed………..

So I ask myself and anyone who will listen… what have you done to ease someone’s pain… today and everyday…

I am not saying “fix them”.. I am saying BE with them, believe in them as strong, humans of goodness, no matter what their current state may appear like…. Let them know they are not alone and their pain matters and there are ways through it…… Simple human kindnesses…

Seek to understand those you do not agree with… somewhere in the midst of 2 opposing thoughts is some common ground.

Take steps to heal your pain, so you are better equipped to walk with others as they work with their own pain…

Be there for yourself,  be there for  others..

Don’t just believe in the goodness, heart, perseverance, strength of humanity  ….

BE goodness, heart, perseverance and strength of  humanity.

Live it …and help make it so

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